Is long distance a valid reason NOT to get into a relationship – or is it just another excuse?

*Topic*
I’ve been having a few conversations lately, and I’ve come to the conclusion that “long distance” is a valid reason not to get into a relationship.

Why? Because after a while, trust issues start to form, people start to lead separate lives and it just goes down hill from there.

People say only the strongest of love can survive long distance relationships, but even a relationship that lasts for years can be torn apart in a second.

I may be biased based on a past “relationship,” but I feel that I’m not the only one who believes that long distance relationships are NOT the way to go. Am I?

*Question*
“Is long distance a valid reason NOT to get into a relationship – or is it just another excuse?”

*5 Questions to consider*
“What is your level of trust in your bf/gf?”
“How often would be an acceptable time to see each other?”
“Are you more of a physical or an emotional person?”
“Do you think girls are more willing to have a long distance relationship than guys?”
“Has it worked for you in the past?”

Here’s Where I Stand…
I honestly believe that long distances relationships will not work based on all the issues that can arise.

Trust – as in ALL relationships – must be 110% when dealing with long distance relationships and if there is any room for doubt then it will never last.

Depending on the distance between a couple, the amount of times they can see each other also plays a big part. If you are a person who craves a lot of physical or emotional attention – then a long distance relationship is definitely a no-go!

From previous conversations, it seems like girls are more willing to give long distance relationships a chance, but are also the ones most hurt.

Still…
I believe the only way a long distance relationship COULD work, is if a foundation was set prior to the relationship becoming long distance. By foundation, I’m not talking about 2-3 months – I’m talking about 2-3 years.

There must also be an understanding that the couple intends to move closer together in the near future. It makes no sense to STAY long distance if you really want to maintain a long and healthy relationship.

They also say: If you REALLY want to make something work – you will.
Okay – I’ve done my part.

Readers' Responses:
1) "Depends on how much the person wants you and the maturity level. and of course ... financial stability is a plus."

2) "I think everyone should try it at least once. It's the ultimate test. But if you're an attention whore, a nympho, have major insecurities, clingy, immature, jealous or if you have extreme trust issues i do not recommend the long distance relationship for you.."

3) "Only way I think it will work is if you already have a strong relationship that was started before the distance became a factor. But to start off with any distance between you is a tough job to do."

4) "YES IT IS! Having strong feelings for someone you can't physically hold or be intimate (not sexual) with for months on end is torture."

5) "It depends on a few things:
1. Prayer
2. Determination
3. Communication
4. Money
5. Love, Trust, Honor

if you lack any of those.. a relationship near or far is NOT for you."

6) "I actually disagree with the notion of it only working if the relationship was strong BEFORE the distance... i think it's the opposite. If you start with long distances you get accustomed to them and you will develop a routine that works for both of you... it's when you're not used to the distance when things can go wrong because you're so used to being able to see each other at any whim"

7) "It's possible bc 'distance never sepreate two hearts that really care"

8) " If you cant honestly say you can be there for a person when they most need it, then whats the point."

9) "The best part of a long distance relationship is that when (yes WHEN) it's over, you don't have to dread the possibility of running into the recent ex everywhere. lol."

10) "I was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about the first year we were together & it is was the best decision i made! if it is meant to be, it will be:)"

All these and more in the comments section!