The rule goes, “You CAN’T date your friend’s crush/ex.” Why? Because dating a friend’s crush/ex leads to jealousy, drama and the possibility of a lost friendship.
It may be easy for you, especially if you don’t like your friend’s crush/ex.
However, that’s not always the case: You meet your friend’s crush/ex and you two REALLY hit it off. The attraction is there, and so is the mental/emotional connection. Clearly, your friend’s crush/ex is into you and would like to see how far you two could go.
*Question*
Is it okay to pursue your friend's crush/ex?
Here's where I stand:
This is a tricky question because friendships are very important and no one should come in between them. At first thought, I would say the answer is "no". Regardless of whether I was feeling/still feeling the person or not, I know that I would be highly upset if one of my friends did it to me, so I know I wouldn't do it to them.
Still:
I think that there is an exception to the rule (don't judge me lol) --- I feel that if you are truly feeling someone (for a reason separate from physical attraction), then you should pursue it. I'm speaking on a more serious context in this case. If you LOVE someone, why can't you pursue them? Do you miss out on the chance to be with the "possible" love of your life because you don't want to hurt your friend's feelings?
Again, it's a touchy subject, but I think that this goes on a case-by-case scenario. Your thoughts?
Top Reader comments:
1) "When it comes to matters of the heart, that is not much than can be controlled. However, when it comes to matters of the mind you are your own captain."
2) "It depends on how you met the person. If you and your friend meet them together, and she's feeling you more, you should pursue it."
3) "You have to ask yourself what type of friend you are to that person. I mean if it's a best friend vs just a friend, it makes a difference."
4) "I wouldn't be happy with it, but if my ex and my friend came up to me and were honest about their feelings, I would respect it. I'm really big on honesty."
5) "My friend's feelings are 90% of my decision, and my character is 10% of the decision. I wouldn't do it -- it's just who I am."
6) "You just have to ask yourself is it truly worth risking a friendship over? If the answer is yes, then by all means go for it, but be fully aware of the consequences of your actions."
7) " It may not have worked out between the original two players but they have enough love for one another that they truly wish happiness for each other - even if that is with a friend."
8) " If you care about your friend you should let them know what the situation is and how you are feeling about that person."
9) "Love is love..regardless of how it comes about...we have no control over who we are attracted to or not...I mostly comes down to the morals and relationships you have with those you consider your friends...AND the maturity level of people."
10) "I'd try to avoid the situation at all costs."
11) "If it's your friend's ex -- they're off limits, if it's just a crush, then it's fair game."
