Thursday, January 15, 2009

Lack of over-the-top affection = lack of interest?

What's up HWISS?

I come to you tonight to talk about something that a few friends and I discussed a few days ago:
When the "excitement" of dating goes sour (for the extreme lack of words).

Dating -- if you take the time to get to know someone -- can be very fun and exciting, until the over-the-top things that you and your potential boo did to win each other's heart, goes down the drain.

And this ^^^ is exactly where the problem lies:

Statement of discussion
The lack of over-the-top affection (calling, texting or whatever you want to call it) = lack of interest.

Here's where I stand
Just because someone doesn't show the same amount of affection that he/she did at the beginning does not necessarily mean that there is any lack of interest.

I believe that most people go above and beyond to show the other person that they're truly interested (at first). After a while, however, he/she gets to the point where they don't have to try anymore. As such, you may not get the call every night before you go to bed, or you may not get the "Have a good day, baby" text message just because.

I think that we get so spoiled when things are "new" and "exciting" that we get upset when things become normal. As such, it's easy to assume that when it all stops, the person is no longer interested.

Maybe it's just me, but a couple that's been together for one month has a lot more excitement in their relationship than a couple that's been together for twenty years.

Still...
Maybe it COULD mean that the person isn't interested. When you're standing on the other side -- you have to ask yourself what you really want. There's a difference between being happy and being satisfied. If you find yourself "satisfied" with a person you're dating -- then there is no chance that you two will ever move further in your relationship.

It's okay to want "more." After all, we deserve the best for ourselves. Let's just hope that we don't find ourselves asking for "too much" when we have something great right in front of us.

Anyway --- I've done enough talking...

Where do you stand?

1 comment:

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