Lose the trust issues and give love a try

What's good everyone? Welcome to “On the Corner!”

In this series, I will discuss things that I want to voice my personal opinion on.

I wanted to come to you all this evening to discuss how I feel about trust in relationships. Sure, it’s a broad topic, but this post focuses primarily on trust issues.

Here’s Where I Stand…
I believe people who have been hurt once or twice (maybe more) tend to develop a sense of insecurity that leads them to have trust issues. Unfortunately these trust issues can lead them to ruin potential or current relationships. You know the type: the somebody who’s been hurt so much that they believe that they are the only person they can trust. If you find yourself in this category and would like to try to make a relationship work, you must do the following: lose the trust issues and give love a try.

Trust Yourself. Understand that if you want to be in a relationship, you must first trust yourself. Trust that you are able to handle a relationship and all that comes with it. Know that there will be just as many bad times as there are good, and that sometimes YOU may be the cause of those rifts. In those cases, you need to be able to trust that you will be able to stand strong and admit when you are wrong. Trust that you will be secure in yourself and that someone is interested in you for a reason. Last but not least, trust that you are strong enough not to give into any temptation.

Trust Him/Her. Forget about those who hurt you in the past. Start your relationship with a new slate. A relationship can flourish as long as there is trust and open communication. Believe that he/she will tell you everything/anything you NEED to know. Don’t question his/her motives; understand that he/she has the freedom to do what he/she wants to do. Do NOT assume the worst; it will only make you stress. Understand that he/she may not respond to a text message whenever you send one – or pick up the phone when you call. Most importantly trust that you are the ONLY one this person is seeing.

Trust in Relationships. Trust that love is possible. Know that you are worth loving and that there is someone out there worth loving back. Learn not to compare old relationships to the present because every relationship is different. Do not assume that one person is trying more than the other – but understand that we all have different ways of showing affection. Understand that there is nothing “too good to be true,” but there is something “good ENOUGH to be true.” As such, you have to believe that love is found when people least expect it --- but normally when they’re ready. They just have to be willing to make it work.

Still…
If you decide to put your full trust into someone and a relationship, all you need is ONE reason to take it back. The moment you doubt ANYTHING – whether it’s yourself, your significant other, or the relationship – it’s time for you to leave. The more you start to suspect that something is wrong, your whole mindframe about the relationship will change.

The suspicions will lead to investigations that will lead to accusations that will lead to arguments that will ultimately lead to a break up. It’s not worth the drama and it’s sure as hell not worth the time. No relationship can survive without trust.

This blog reads a bit like a sermon --- but that’s where I stand on trust issues.

Where do YOU stand ‘On the Corner?’