What’s good HWISS?
As part of my blog, I’d like to offer the opinions of other people. As such, please read the question carefully and feel free to share your honest thoughts/opinions.
Before you answer, please take note of the five additional questions to consider and feel free to pose your own. *Remember, there is no right/wrong answer!*
*Topic*
How many times have you spoke with a friend about a problem in a relationship and your friend says, "You know what? You just need to leave him/her alone!" --- and you did just that (and regretted it).
On the other hand, how many times has a friend saved you from making the biggest relationship mistake of your life? Just when you were ready to throw in the towel, you friend says, "Hey --- just give him/her another try." --- and you did just that (and were happy with your decision).
Many people ask their friends for advice to figure out their problems --- especially problems dealing with their relationships. While some may believe that their friends offer great advice; others may disagree as friends can also offer the "wrong advice."
Because friends have such an important role; sometimes their opinion matters more than yours --- and that could potentially be dangerous (or helpful) when it comes to YOUR relationship.
With that said...
*Question*
“Is it any of your/his/her friends' business to discuss the problems in YOUR relationship?
*5 Questions to consider*
“Do you know your man/woman's friends?"
"Do you LIKE your man/woman's? friends?"
"How often do you two have problems?"
"Do you talk to your friends about relationship problems?"
"Should friends be consulted on a case-by-case basis?"
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Here’s Where I Stand…
Involving friends in relationships could lead to several problems. You have to understand that most friends have your best interest in mind --- or at least they believe they do. As such, they will tell you anything to make you happy.
"You're too good for this," "Leave that boy/girl alone," "We going out tonight --- f*ck them!" ---
I'm sure you've heard it before, but you REALLY have to be careful that your friend just isn't trying to ruin your relationship. Some friends may "appear" to be happy for you, but in all reatlity, they may be a little jealous of you and/or your relationship.
Not being directly a part of your relationship can be harmful too --- because as you know, most relationship problems are one-sided. Not knowing the WHOLE story could cause a friend to tell you the wrong thing, and you don't really want that.
Also --- sometimes friends don't know what the HELL they are talking about! LOL
Still…
Sometimes you/your man/woman may need to talk to a friend. Aside from the SERIOUS issues such as abuse/cheating --- having someone on the outside weigh-in on a problem can expose one to a solution that was never thought of. Talking to a friend may be very well what's needed to save your relationship or save yourself. I think it is acceptable on a case-by-case basis.
Where do you stand?
Messy
5 years ago
3 comments:
Bravo T.H.! You've done it again. In regards to your question, at the end of the day, it's nobody's business what happens between you and your significant other. I think it's ok to involve a friend from time to time, but not EVERY single time he/she does something that troubles you. Every time you do go to your friends with an issue it ultimately makes your friends get a negative perspective on your mate, and therefore, leading to not so sound advice. Not to mention, everyone that you get advice from doesn't necessarily have common sense! So I guess I'm sayin it's ok to involve friends once in awhile, but don't make them the "Dr. Phil's" or "Oprahs" of your relationship!
hell no friends cause drama in relationships... keep them out
I kinda agree with Steve. In the early stages of a relationship, let it work it's self out. If you have a good head on your shoulders, you can spot most if not all problems ahead of time. If you don't have a good head, yeah, get a friend check. Otherwise leave them out for now, because discussing many of your problems can highlight them so much... Read More that that's all your friends will see (and the reverse if true for the good stuff if there is a problem). The closer we get to a person, the more we can be blinded due to our intimacy. That's where friends can be helpful. Plus, sometimes the case can be your friends really catch on to the hype you generate around that person you are with and wonder what happened when things go wrong (if you only talk about the good). But everyone is different. So do what works for you.
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