On the Corner: If you feel that he/she isn’t doing enough, maybe you are doing too much.

What's good everyone? Welcome to “On the Corner!”

I wanted to come to you all this evening to discuss a phrase that I hear often: “He/She’s not doing enough!”

Declines in phone calls, lack of timely responses to text messages, shortness in conversations --- these are just some of the reasons why someone may feel that his/her man/woman isn’t “doing enough.”

Some people feel that the attention they give/ the effort they put out to communicate to their loved ones should be equal. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.

Once the honeymoon period is over --- all of the little things that used to make you smile start to dwindle. That’s life --- but the moment you feel that he/she isn’t doing enough, you may be the one that’s doing too much.

Here’s Where I Stand…
In relationships, equal efforts should be made when it comes to communication/showing attention. I personally feel like relationships should be 50/50. I understand that most relationships are NOT 50/50, but it should be closest to that number as possible.

It sucks to be the person who feels that they make all of the effort to communicate or make things happen in a relationship, but there comes a time that people must realize that if they are not getting out what they are putting in, then they don’t need to put out that much.

If you feel like you are ALWAYS the one reaching out to someone, showing him/her attention, this—that—and the other--- maybe you need to reevaluate the effort that YOU put in. Maybe you need to lie off of the calls every two hours, or sending a text message every morning (like you used to), or making plans to do things that only YOU want to do. I’m not telling you to cut the person off -- just lie off of the EXTRA things you do. You get what I’m saying?

It’s hard not to seem spiteful when you do a thing like this, but people need to realize that it’s about making the relationship equal. Maybe once you fall back, you will become more appreciated…maybe not.

If you see that the relationship is not getting better, then you need to ask yourself why you are even with someone who doesn’t give you the attention you feel you deserve.

Still…
People change. With changes in people there are changes in relationships. In every relationship, there is a “honeymoon period.” This is the time in which people go the extra mile to impress the person they like, extra attention is given, special exceptions are made, etc.
The honeymoon period ends as soon as one person gets comfortable. If one’s heart is already won, what’s the point of going the extra mile?

Don’t assume the worst. I mean it could be ANY reason why someone doesn’t call as much, send text messages when you want a response, may now show enough attention. What reasons are those? I don’t know – ask them lol. Seriously though, it’s nothing wrong with bringing it to the attention of the person you’re dealing with. They may be doing the things that they do unconsciously.

Where do YOU stand ‘On the Corner?’